There are two types of moms in the world. The “it” mom and “that” mom. The “it” mom is the one who has it all together. You know the type….she looks cute when dropping the kids off at 7 a.m. for school, her house is spotless, gourmet meals are served nightly, and yet she manages to stay in shape and be president of the PTA. On the opposite end of the spectrum, you have me. I’m the lady who has checked out with a cart full of groceries, only to have forgotten my wallet. My kids have thrown up in multiple department stores. And I recently sent a lunchbox to school with the leftovers from the day before. Does that paint a clear enough picture for you? I am the epitome of “that” mom.
It’s so easy as women, to have others on a pedestal. We focus on the outward appearance and quickly form our opinions, while causing our own self worth to plummet. The thoughts of “I’m not” and “I don’t” come pouring in and we are left feeling worthless. And when we allow these words to fill our minds and our attitudes, we then miss out on life. When our focus is what we are unable to do, we fail to see what we can. We all have others that we look up to and admire, but when jealousy and envy walk through the door, we’ve crossed the line.
Motherhood is hard. For the “it mom” and “that mom”. It’s tough no matter your age, your body type, where you live, or what school your children go to. The saying, “it takes a village to raise a child” is true and we as mothers should encourage and assist one another. And when someone does well, tell them. And when another is going through a rough patch, speak life into their circumstance. So what if you forgot pajama day….your kids will survive. And if you enjoy cooking and volunteering, I think that’s awesome. Maybe you’re the creative mom, who loves arts and crafts. You might be more playful, and enjoy doing outdoor activities with the kids. We all have different strengths and weaknesses. There is no perfect mother. Do what you can with what you have. That’s what your kids will remember. That’s what’s important.
I encourage us all today, to drop the images we’ve created in our minds. That we stop comparing ourselves and instead, bless one another. You never know what someone is dealing with behind closed doors. The secret insecurities and struggles someone is facing. We as mothers should pray for one another and speak life. You may feel like you don’t have much to offer, but there is someone who looks up to you. And our actions and inactions often speak louder than words. So chin up moms! You have an awesome job ahead of you and you’re the perfect one to fill the position!